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Indifference, love and hate 

Indifference does not share any similarities with love or hate. But love and hate as qualities do share similarities which prevent them from being opposites.

While indifference as a quality unbinds us from its objects, both love and hate draw us toward their respective objects. Hence, indifference is the opposite of both love and hate, and love and hate are similar to each other.

And this is true although desires that motivate us when we practise love or hate are opposites of each other. Also, our acts of love or hate affect others in ways that are opposites of each other.

And there’re going to be times that we need to distance ourselves from certain objects or activities. So on such occasions we can choose to be indifferent toward those objects or activities to our advantage.

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Emasculating Men

Emasculation of some partners in a relationship is an act that some females think they can’t avoid to do.

These females also think that they can succeed in such emasculation without their partner realizing what they’re doing. Furthermore, these females think that their partner should accept this treatment when he starts to experience it. They think, too, that he should not leave the relationship after he starts to suffer from their attempt to emasculate him.

Well, that’s fine for these females but not for some of us males as we just exit the relationship. Such females then are wondering why no male stays in a relationship with them; and in their old age many of these females are going to end up confused, and all alone by themselves.

By Edward Fagan

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Animal Rights Activists

Animal rights activists defend a good cause and I support them all the way; but still, I want to raise a few points in this area.

Around the world, humans have created bodies to protect and defend animals and their rights. We create and maintain shelters for animals; and raise funds for veterinarian services and to cover the costs of prosecuting animal abusers in the law courts.

Animal rights and protecting human life

When humans abuse domestic animals, activists quickly and correctly stand up and defend the animals. Sometimes, however, domestic animals kill humans, but when this happens activists refuse to respond.

Occasionally, somebody’s pit bull slays a little child from another family, but the activists say and do nothing. They do not even extend condolences to the child’s family.

Is somebody saying that animal rights are more important than the life of a human? I hope not because the Bible says otherwise in John 3: 16, and in other parts of scripture; and Christ died and resurrected for humans only.

Should activists assist families of humans that animals without owners, or of unknown owners fatally attacked without provocation, after such attacks? If the answer to this question is yes, then activists can consider two choices.

They can create a fund to assist the families of persons who animals fatally attacked. Or otherwise they could assist such families from resources they currently use to defend animals against abuse from us.

Or do we need to create a human rights body to identify and protect our rights against animals? This body could offer at least moral support to victims of unprovoked and sometimes fatal attacks from animals?

By Edward Fagan

Children’s Rights, Protecting Them From Us

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Vision-less People

Vision-less people, credit and admiration

Vision-less persons are a strong, fearless and easy-going bunch; but we do not realize this. We thus do not give them half as much credit and recognition as they deserve.

Living without physical vision and going about their daily affairs normally, as many of these people do, seem totally impossible. They yet function and perform life’s tasks without giving up or constantly complaining.

We who can see do all of the complaining and we’re the ones who create all of the problems. This, perhaps, is why we who have sight suffer the most from anxiety.

I’m therefore not surprised to find that most sightless people are relaxed and contented. Many of us, perhaps, would not function as well as they do if we were in their situation.

Recently I watched one of these persons walking briskly and with good bearing while tapping his stick against the pavement; and he seemed confident and sure of where he was going. He also reached his destination safely and returned home safely.

I’ll continue to sympathize with and assist these persons; and I’ll also continue to recognize their success at living with the daily problems that they face.

By Edward Fagan

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Abuse, A Suggestion For

Single parent mothers who do a good job at it are always better for the home and children; likewise, an abusive and careless father is useless.

One of the features of the ideal home is where both parents and children live together; but sometimes both mother and children suffer abuse when they live with the father.

When this happens, the mother and children should move away from the father, or ask him to move away from them.

Several abusive fathers lived in the neighborhood in which I grew up; and regularly those fathers abused the mothers of their children in the presence of the children; and some of my friends who lived in those homes shared their experiences with me.

A single parent home where the mother and children had to escape from an abusive father can be a loving, warm and happy home.

I grew up in a home with only my mother and three sisters; and my mother was loving, strong, independent and strict; and she performed her role as a single parent faultlessly. Our mother protected our family and home from abuse and we shared love, peace and freedom.

By Edward Fagan

Abuse, A Suggestion For Ending It

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Group Reminded Me Of

Group made enemies of all nations but no friends or allies.

Group viewed every individual, every people, and every country as their most hated enemies. Even people in Iraq and Syria, the two countries of their operation, suffered fom their acts of hatred and brutality.

They brutally killed or punished anyone in Iraq and Syria who did not pledge allegiance to, or join them. People suffered this fate irrespective of their ethnicity or nationality.

Kidnapping, ambushing and armed assault they waged constantly against men, women, children, elderly persons and the military in both countries.

Their admirers and emulators outside of Iraq and Syria, meanwhile, displayed support by replicating their actions wherever and whenever possible.

Group acquired arms and lots of money for a while. 

Taking control of some areas in both countries, they confiscated arms from the retreating military in those areas; additionally, they acquired money by selling oil from areas they controlled in Syria.    

For the release of certain persons in their captivity, they demanded and often received large ransoms from governments. These ransoms usually amounted to millions of U.S. dollars.       

Group finally suffered defeat and no country assisted them.

As they made only enemies of all countries, all countries likewise made only an enemy of them; and this helped sealed their fate as a short lived organization and ensured their recent and complete defeat.

Their victims and the world welcomed their demise. The constant loss of life, and suffering and hopelessness they caused finally came to an end.

The conditions which they imposed on people who lived under their brief and tyrannical rule, reminded me of several values. These values I have always enjoyed and taken for granted.

Group actions make me remember these familiar values:

  • No one is an island, whether an individual, a social unit or a nation, so we’re thus interdependent and that
  • Peaceful and harmonious coexistence among nations is a universal necessity. This is necessary so that nations can realize economic, social, political and other aspirations.
  • Human life has worth and value, and the individual person is born with dignity and freedom; the state should not deny citizens these universal, moral values, also
  • Attaining national social, economic and political stability is important in its own right. This is also necessary so that citizens can realize their full potential, and finally
  • Love is not a lifeless ornamental concept, it is a living and vital necessity and that we should practice it. We practice it when we selflessly give to, share with, help, and perform other useful deeds for each other.

I hope that those in whom still lives the zeal for creating that empire, resist the temptation to do so. I also hope they do not repeat the actions of these tyrants so that people in both countries can recover. This should allow people there to gradually rebuild their lives and return to normal living once again.

By Edward Fagan

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Sexual Intercourse

Sexual Intercourse Requirements:

Sexual intercourse among humans, like most other human physical activity, commands us to meet certain requirements. We must meet these requirements if we are to practice the true and correct form of this activity.
We need to clearly identify these requirements if we are to practice true and safe sexual intercourse. This is necessary to avoid problems and diseases we suffer when we ignore these requirements in our sexual practice.

Sexual Intercourse, Identifying Its Requirements:

I wish to mention three requirements that we must meet in our effort to practice true and safe intercourse.

Requirement number one holds that: both partners involved must be human (not a man and an animal, for example).

Requirement number two is, that: one partner must be male and the other partner must be female (not two males, or two females imitating the sex act, for example).

The third requirement holds that: we must use both the male sex organ and the female sex organ simultaneously and together (not two female sex organs, or two male sex organs, or a male sex organ and an anus, or a female sex organ and an object other than a male sex organ, for example).

Sexual Intercourse, The Basis Of Its Requirements:

True human sexual intercourse must include all three of these scientifically factual requirements mentioned above. The very God who made us all commands these three requirements in the Bible. They also are all confirmed as healthy and sound, universally, by nature and by the pure and applied biological sciences.

Sexual Intercourse, Sensitivity Toward Others’ Feelings:

Please note that I do not aim to use the above statement to offend or annoy anyone, in any way. I wrote it, instead, to help clear the air surrounding an important topic about which there presently is much misunderstanding. I regret any offence experienced by readers of this post on this blog, and on Facebook and other social media.

By Edward Fagan

Edward Fagan Blog

July 21, 2018

(This is a previously published original post that I accidentally deleted from the blog. I thought it necessary that I republished it into the blog.)

Sureness, Few Seem Sure

Sureness disappears as doubt and uncertainty appear:

Sureness about answers to the important questions of life is what people used to display not so long ago. These days, however, almost everyone is either skeptical of these answers, or indifferent to the age-old, important questions of life.

The question of marriage is a good example of this. Until recently, people were sure they knew the answer to the question “What is marriage?” For generations, people have answered this question by saying: “Marriage is a legal union of one man and one woman.” Now, some people not only question this answer, but many reject it as a misleading reply to the question.

Family life is another area in which many doubt and question the accepted standard and practice. Many now doubt the notion that the traditional family represents the only structural standard there is for the family unit. They argue that we should consider two adults of the same gender and children living together as a family.

We can also find examples of this prevailing doubt in people’s view of, and attitude toward God and religion. As people doubt and question the importance or even the existence of God, moral uncertainty and decline creep in. While this happens, people discard moral principles and values and think and behave at a lower standard than is acceptable.

A source of hope is there to help us:

We can suffer in several ways because of failing to act correctly due to our doubt and uncertainty.

Is there, however, a source of knowledge and instruction that can help us remove doubt and uncertainty? Yes, the Bible is a source of factual knowledge and instruction and it can help us solve this problem. Will we, then, consult the bible and try to overcome our doubt and uncertainty?

By Edward Fagan

Edward Fagan Blog

February 22, 2018

(This is a previously published original post that I accidentally deleted from the blog. I thought it necessary that I republished it into the blog.)

Random thought

Random thought leads to a resolution

Random thought, we all know, can originate from anywhere and can be about any topic there is. In this case I look briefly at a resolution idea which randomly came to me. It came to me as I wrote a diary entry recently.

It is a simple resolution which we can make at any time. This resolution commits us to use our time and energy, almost solely, to pursue our goals. It also commits us to avoid spending any time or energy responding to persons who speak or act to put obstacles in our path. (The wording of this resolution, we are free to choose according to our preference.)

A resolution that helps us ignore the distraction others create.

We sometimes reduce or remove our opportunity to achieve our goals without realizing that we are doing so. We do this when we practise activity that is not related to achieving our goals. Sometimes we pay undue attention to those who speak or act ill toward us.

Many of these people aim to distract our attention away from our goals. When we pay them our attention, we waste valuable time and energy that we need to achieve those goals. To the extent that we dissipate our time and energy on such persons, we reduce or remove our opportunity to achieve our goals.

This is a resolution that requires us to adopt only two standards for its problem-free practice. One standard is that we set lofty goals. The other standard is that we pursue those goals in a way that respects the rights and freedoms of others.

We certainly will achieve our goals when we work energetically toward achieving them. We, however, must remember to ignore attempts by others to distract our attention away from those goals. A good resolution of the type mentioned above can assist us in attaining any goal we set out to achieve.

By Edward Fagan

Edward Fagan Blog

February 11, 2018

(This is a previously published original post that I accidentally deleted from the blog. I thought it necessary that I republished it into the blog.)

breast feeding

Breastfeeding is not only a necessary act, but also one of beauty and seeming joy. The baby’s need for the best nutrition there is, obviously, makes nursing him necessary. The wonderful preventative medicinal benefits available to both baby and mother also help make nursing him necessary.

Besides this, what can be more of an expression of love and a pleasing sight to behold than a mother nursing her baby?
Many mothers know about the widely known benefits of nursing their baby. Both baby and mother, however, stand to gain from some twenty lesser known benefits of nursing a baby.

Dr. Ruth A. Lawrence writes about such remarkable benefits. She is author of the book “Breastfeeding: A Guide for the Medical Profession”, Elsevier-Mosby. Dr. Ruth A. Lawrence is an infant-nutrition expert. She is also a Professor of Pediatrics and Obstetrics-Gynecology at the University of Rochester School of Medicine and Dentistry in Rochester, New York.

Heather Kelly also advocates these lesser known but wonderful benefits of nursing a baby. She is an international board-certified lactation consultant in New York City. She is also a member of the Bravado Breastfeeding Information Council’s advisory board.

Dr. Ruth A. Lawrence and Heather Kelly contributed to the list mentioned below.

Breastfeeding, some of its other benefits

1. A healthier baby
“The incidences of pneumonia, colds and viruses are reduced among breastfed babies,” says Lawrence. Gastrointestinal infections like diarrhea—which can be devastating, especially in developing countries—are also less common.

2. Long-term protection, too
Breastfeed your baby and you reduce his risk of developing chronic conditions, such as type I diabetes, celiac disease and Crohn’s disease.

3. Stronger bones
According to Lawrence, women who breastfeed have a lower risk of postmenopausal osteoporosis. “When a woman is pregnant and lactating, her body absorbs calcium much more efficiently,” she explains. “So while some bones, particularly those in the spine and hips, may be a bit less dense at weaning, six months later, they are more dense than before pregnancy.”

4. Lower SIDS risk
Breastfeeding lowers your baby’s risk of sudden infant death syndrome by about half.

5. Fewer problems with weight
It’s more likely that neither of you will become obese if you breastfeed him.

6. A calorie incinerator
You may have heard that nursing burns up to 500 calories a day. And that’s almost right. “Breast milk contains 20 calories per ounce,” Lawrence explains. “If you feed your baby 20 ounces a day, that’s 400 calories you’ve swept out of your body.”

7. It’s good for the earth
Dairy cows, which are raised in part to make infant formula, are a significant contributor to global warming: Their belching, manure and flatulence (really!) spew enormous amounts of methane, a harmful greenhouse gas, into the atmosphere.

8. Better healing postdelivery
The oxytocin released when your baby nurses helps your uterus contract, reducing postdelivery blood loss. Plus, breastfeeding will help your uterus return to its normal size more quickly—at about six weeks postpartum, compared with 10 weeks if you don’t breastfeed.

9. Less risk of cancer
Breastfeeding can decrease your baby’s risk of some childhood cancers. And you’ll have a lower risk of premenopausal breast cancer and ovarian cancer, an often deadly disease that’s on the rise.

10. An unmatched feeling of power
“It’s empowering as a new mother to see your baby grow and thrive on your breast milk alone,” Lawrence says.

11. A custom-made supply
Formula isn’t able to change its constitution, but your breast milk morphs to meet your baby’s changing needs. Colostrum—the “premilk” that comes in after you deliver—is chock-full of antibodies to protect your newborn baby. “It’s also higher in protein and lower in sugar than ‘full’ milk, so even a small amount can hold off your baby’s hunger,” says Heather Kelly.

When your full milk comes in (usually three to four days after delivery), it is higher in both sugar and volume than colostrum—again, just what your baby requires. “He needs a lot of calories and frequent feedings to fuel his rapid growth,” Kelly explains. “Your mature milk is designed to be digested quickly so he’ll eat often.”

12. More effective vaccines
Research shows that breastfed babies have a better antibody response to vaccines than formula-fed babies.

13. A menstruation vacation
Breastfeeding your baby around the clock—no bottles or formula— will delay ovulation, which means delayed menstruation. “Breastfeeding causes the release of prolactin, which keeps estrogen and progesterone at bay so ovulation isn’t triggered,” Kelly explains.

“When your prolactin levels drop, those two hormones can kick back in, which means ovulation—and, hence, menstruation—occurs.”

Even if you do breastfeed exclusively, your prolactin levels will eventually drop over the course of several months. Many moms who solely nurse will see their periods return between six and eight months after delivery, Kelly adds; others don’t for a full year.

14. Less time off work
Your baby will be ill less often, so that means fewer sick days for you.

15. It’s cheap!
According to La Leche League International, the cost of formula can range anywhere from $134 to $491 per month. That’s $1,608 to $5,892 in one year!

16. A great way to learn about your baby
“You have to read your baby’s ‘satiety cues’ a little better, because unlike with a bottle, you can’t see how much he’s eaten,” Kelly says. “You have to rely on your own instincts and your baby’s behavior to know when your baby is full.”

17. You can stash the condoms—for now
Breastfeeding can be 98 percent to 99 percent effective as a post-baby birth control option if a few guidelines are followed: Your period must not have resumed; you must breastfeed at least every four hours around the clock; you must not give your baby any pacifiers, bottles or formula; and you must be less than six months postpartum.
According to Kelly, nighttime feedings are the most important to the “lactation amenorrhea method,” so do not let your baby (or yourself ) sleep through a feeding. “Going long stretches at night without nursing seems to be directly responsible for the return of ovulation,” she says. Prematurely sleep training your baby can also hasten ovulation.

18. There’s nothing easier
Simply pull up your shirt and nurse. Breast milk is always available and always at the right temperature.

19. Benefits for all
According to a study published in the journal Pediatrics, the United States would save about $13 billion per year in medical costs if 90 percent of U.S. families breastfed their newborns for at least six months.

20. Better friendships
“Breastfeeding helps cultivate relationships with other moms,” Kelly says. Whether it’s talking about parenting styles, nighttime feedings or engorgement, nursing allows women to forge positive postpartum relationships. Adds Kelly, “Women are supposed to be sitting together, nursing and taking care of babies.”

Breastfeeding in public

We should accept without any offence, mothers nursing babies in public. Public places and businesses should even encourage it by placing signs that welcome mothers to nurse freely. Our leaders should not hesitate to put legislation in place, if necessary, to allow this to happen. Some persons take offence at a mother baring her breast in public to nurse a baby. Such persons can better use their energy by standing up for certain moral rights. Our nursing mothers, then, should be able to more freely exercise their moral right to nurse anywhere.

By Edward Fagan

Edward Fagan Blog

January 27, 2018

(This is a previously published original post that I accidentally deleted from the blog. I thought it necessary that I republished it into the blog.)