Take heed, and our actions
“Take heed”, is this plea still relevant? It seems some people do not think so anymore. It wasn’t always like this. There was a time, not long ago, when people took warning. They understood actions always had consequences. Many also knew some consequences would be harmful.
They knew what was right and what was wrong, generally, and what was good and what was bad. When they could not decide for themselves, they trusted someone else’s better judgement instead.
Almost everyone talked about manners and good behaviour. Many tried, and succeeded, at practising both. People understood commonly shared needs, and generally showed due respect toward each other.
Now, the prevailing way seems to be that everyone should see a situation how he feels inclined to see it. He is also expected to act according to his inclination, sometimes even if it is a bad or wrong one. What about if it hurts the next person? Oh, that is his problem. He will find a way to deal with it. We are at a strange point in our history.
People do not seem to care about getting along well together anymore. They seem to expect, and even welcome, interpersonal conflict. Many people now seem so angry and impulsive, so hasty and ready to ignite. They behave like an explosive attached to a short fuse near an open flame.
These people often explode at very short notice. They are also not ashamed of this kind of behaviour. They will display it whenever and wherever they can.
Firstly, they practise it at home in the presence of the little ones, and perfect it over time. The little ones are learning it all along and will grow up behaving the same way.
Take heed, what about consequences?
During this time, they are testing it on the road in traffic jams, and at small retail outlets. When they try it on the road they call it road rage. When they try it at one of my ice cream retail outlets, they say they are “telling him off”.
They are my customers and I love them all, apart from our business connection. When one of them fails to come around for a while, I am concerned about their welfare. I often enquire about them.
One such lady I nick named “Fire Lady”. She hotly told me off on a few occasions in the presence of her children and several customers. Customers tell me she also behaves that way at home in the presence of the children.
Recently, I missed her for a few weeks and asked a neighbour if she was alright. The neighbour replied no and said she suffered a heart attack two weeks earlier. Doctors told her that her son’s murder might have triggered the reaction which lead to the heart attack, she continued.
A week before the heart attack, students at her son’s school had badly beaten him up. They then brutally stabbed him to death. School authorities and students say he was a notorious bully at the school.
Students are refusing to come forward and give an account of what happened, to both the school authorities and police. So far, the police have not brought charges against anyone.
At that school somebody needed to take heed before it was to late. That person, sadly, did not take heed.
By Edward Fagan
Edward Fagan Blog
November 19, 2017