Love’s Opposite Is Simply Not Hate

Love's Opposite Is Simply Not Hate

By Edward Fagan

Love’s opposite is not hate, they are too similar

Love’s opposite is not hate, even though many of us think so. At first sight, the qualities of love and hate seem to be opposites of each other. The motives behind the acts of love and hate thus seem to be opposites of each other. The acts of love and hate, and their outcomes too, also seem to be opposites of each other.

Love and hate, however, are not opposites. These two qualities have too much in common to be opposites of each other. Love, to the extent of its presence in a host, draws its host to the love object. It creates a bond or link between its host and the love object. It also attaches its host to the love object, for as long as it remains present in the host.

Hate does exactly the same thing as love, and in the same way. Hate, to the extent of its presence in a host, draws its host to the hate object. It creates a bond or link between its host and the hate object. It also attaches its host to the hate object, for as long as it remains present in the host.

These two spiritual (though not necessarily religious) qualities have much in common. One would repel the host from the object rather than draw him to it if they were opposites. They are not opposites of each other, but are both opposites of another quality. I will look at this quality in the future.

Love and hate, the abstract nouns minus their acts or verb equivalents, are powerful. Medical research proves this in discovering that some persons who harbour much hate consequently develop certain disorders. Researchers also found that persons who harboured thoughts of love realized an improvement in their health.

Love’s opposite, what about motives, acts and outcomes? 

Our motives determine our actions and their results. When we act out of love, our motives are always to selflessly serve and help others. When we act out of hate, our motives are to cause others harm.

The motives, and acts and their outcomes, of love and hate are, like love and hate, not opposites. The motives behind our acts of love and hate connect us to the objects of our love and hate. Our acts of love and hate, and their outcomes also link us to the objects of our love and hate.

Finally then, we can say that love and hate are not opposites. We can also say that their motives, acts, and the outcomes of their acts are also not opposites.

by Edward Fagan

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Love, The Dual Sided Object

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Breaking Up Is Not Wrongdoing

Breaking Up Is Not Wrong Doing

By Edward Fagan

Breaking up, a few points worth noting

Breaking up in a romantic or marital relationship is often painful for one or both partners. The other partner usually sees himself or herself as suffering wrongdoing by the partner who ended the relationship. Is this, however, really the case?

Does someone deny you a right when they refuse to continue in a personal relationship with you? We commit wrongdoing when we deny someone the exercise of a right in a given situation. Do we deny someone a right when we refuse their offer to start a relationship? No we do not, because such a right does not exist.

We therefore do not grant them a right when we accept their offer to start such a relationship. Then, we also do not grant them a right to continue in such a relationship if started. We thus do not deny them a right when we terminate such a relationship if started.

We have the same moral rights within relationships as we have outside of them. In relationships, however, we grant each other privileges that we do not offer to others. These privileges are ours to give and deny as we choose to do.

When we terminate a relationship we are exercising our right to deny a privilege we granted previously. Our partner might feel bad but we are not denying them the exercise of a right. We thus are not guilty of any wrongdoing toward them.

by Edward Fagan

Please also see the following post in this Blog:

Looking At Love To Understand Its Nature

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Marriage, We Need To Clarify It

Marriage, We Need To Find It Again

An original essay

by Edward Fagan

Marriage ,what an institution

Marriage is a wonderful and very old institution. It is so old that some people have forgotten its origin. Some of us also never even defined it because we always knew what it was. Now, however, a movement is attempting to challenge it and the family.

During the 1980’s a movement started to demand a change to this institution that could have threatened it over time. That movement gained momentum and was about to succeed in its aim by the mid 1990’s. Then, in September of 1996 President Bill Clinton signed the Defence of Marriage Act (DOMA) into law. This bill staved off the attack until 2013 when the U.S. Supreme Court ruled that section 3 of the act was unconstitutional.

Section 3 of the DOMA defines marriage as the union of one man and one woman. It defines “spouse” as a partner in a legally recognized heterosexual marriage.

By ruling this section of the DOMA unconstitutional, the Supreme Court made same sex marital unions legal in the U.S. This ruling set a questionable precedent for marriage elsewhere.

The marital union, by its nature and functioning, is and always will be a heterosexual relationship. It is for heterosexuals only. The family also is a heterosexual only institution. It involves biological reproduction, genetics and blood connections. Its members reproduce themselves perpetually through passing on their genes.

Homosexual and lesbian relationships therefore fail to replicate the family. There is thus no such thing as a homosexual or lesbian marital relationship or family.

by Edward Fagan

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Standing Up For Morality And The Family

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Education, A Few Words About It

Education, A Few Words About It

By Edward Fagan

Education, and training the mind

Education in the specific sense is “Cultivation or training of the mind. Such cultivation or training which creates a certain mental set or posture from which will flow values and assumptions.”. This training, therefore, develops in us ability to reason, to be objective, and and to have a sense of values. It prepares us for life. It can also help tame the beast in us, and can help reduce crime and lawlessness.

These ideal qualities are vitally important everywhere and for all time. The formal academic curriculum is the lifeblood of education. We, thus, should never reduce it to one that merely prepares people for work. Toward this end, formal education reformers and fiscal crusaders, therefore, should look to reform vocational learning and training.

Vocational training, preparing people for work

In this regard, vocational instruction and training provide fertile ground for constant improvement and expansion. These prepare us for the world of work, which is forever growing, changing and adapting.

by Edward Fagan

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Children: Training For Life, Important Points And Advantages

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Children’s Rights, Protecting Them From Us

Children's Rights, Protecting Them Against Us

 An original essay

by Edward Fagan

Children’s rights, the basics

Children’s rights we often overlook and when this happens, our children suffer. Sometimes we as parents or guardians place too much emphasis on certain practices toward our children. In so doing, we often ignore their rights in some areas.

There are several areas of rights of children including those dealing with their physical and circumstantial needs. Here, we are looking at two of the less obvious rights. These, expectedly, are among those that we neglect the most.

One such right demands that we protect children from dangerous people. We thus must stop exposing children to dangerous people, even when we are naive about their dangerousness.  Another such right is that we stop using children in our demonstrations of political correctness.

Children’s rights, consequences of denial

The following incident took place in Wyoming, United States, around October 18 this year. Miguel Martinez, a man claiming transgender womanhood invited a ten year old girl to accompany him in a bathroom. He allegedly fondled her breasts and genitalia and then penetrated her. He was a family friend.

During a medical examination of the girl’s genitalia, nurses found evidence of sexual assault. Martinez was on trial October 19, in a case due to last four days.

The above incident shows how we disregard the two children’s rights mentioned above. The girl’s family denied her the right of protection against a dangerous man. They seem naive about his dangerousness. They allowed him in the house around her, and she trusted him because of that.

Her family might have been trying to be politically correct if they allowed her to accompany him in the bathroom. Are they guilty of denying her the second of two rights mentioned above? Yes, if they allowed her to go with him to the bathroom out of political correctness.

by Edward Fagan

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Children: Training For Life, Important Points And Advantages

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Religion, Opium Of The People?

Religion, at the root

Religion has been with man from our beginning, and seems destined to be with us forever. Who, however, are its creators, and what is its purpose? The God of the Bible made man with a spirit Job 32: 8. This spirit gives us our unique likeness to God Genesis 1: 26.

It also gives us our ability to acquire knowledge and be creative and inventive. We are thus the most creative and inventive of all physical beings. This spirit, however, is not complete. God gave it to us like this for our own good. We must strive to become spiritually complete and fulfilled Matthew 11: 28 John 4: 14.

Please also see the following post in this blog:

Love, The Dual Sided Object

Looking At Love To Understand Its Nature

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Religion, the conclusion

Our spirit needs God to infuse it with his divine spirit and make it whole, perfect Matthew 5: 48. When this happens, we will become divine and eternal members of the god family, sons of God. Christ will be our elder brother Romans 8: 29. This will happen when Christ returns 1 Corinthians 15: 52. He will grant It to those who qualify for it through the grace of God. Those persons who receive it would also have kept the ten commandments 1 Corinthians 6: 9.

God created for us the ideal spiritual life as far back as in the garden of Eden Genesis 3: 3. He created this way of life for us so that we might become one with him for our own good. We rejected his recommended way and its destination, for our own way and its outcome. He still calls us to his way, and to him as its destination. Will we heed his call?

by Edward Fagan

 

Jesus, His Death And Resurrection

Missing A Child Who Is Abducted Mysteriously; Jesus, His Death And Resurrection

An original essay

by Edward Fagan

Jesus, the commandments 

Jesus’ death and resurrection had to happen before man could regain access to eternal life. God also wanted man to continue keeping the ten commandments after the occurrence of those two events. Man’s keeping the Ten Commandments continues to be a necessary requirement for him to regain access to eternal life.

This is an awesome divine privilege, and Paul expresses this point clearly in 1 Corinthians 6: 9-10. Please see the following about the importance of keeping the Ten Commandments: Matthew 7:21, 19:17; 1John 2:3-4.

God required man to keep the Ten Commandments before his demise when he did not need a deliverer. He gave man the Ten Commandments in the Garden of Eden when he was sinless. Man fell because he failed at keeping those commandments.

Keeping the commandments helps us to develop Godly character and destroy the old sinful man, John 12:25. The old sinful man must die so that the new man can live in us Matthew 9:17. God’s divine spirit can not join our human spirit if it is corrupt with sin. We need God’s divine spirit to join our human spirit and make us whole, complete, Matthew 5:48; Job 32:8.

Please also see the following posts in this blog: 

Love, The Dual Sided Object

Looking At Love To Understand Its Nature

Honesty, An Important But Ignored Quality

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Jesus, grace

Christ’s death frees us from inevitable eternal death, and His resurrection makes our resurrection to eternal life possible. Both events give us a second chance at eternal life, and allow us to benefit from God’s grace toward us. God’s grace does not remove the necessity of our keeping the ten commandments. Grace and the ten commandments are not in conflict with each other.

by Edward Fagan