By Edward Fagan
Love’s opposite is not hate, they are too similar
Love’s opposite is not hate, even though many of us think so. At first sight, the qualities of love and hate seem to be opposites of each other. The motives behind the acts of love and hate thus seem to be opposites of each other. The acts of love and hate, and their outcomes too, also seem to be opposites of each other.
Love and hate, however, are not opposites. These two qualities have too much in common to be opposites of each other. Love, to the extent of its presence in a host, draws its host to the love object. It creates a bond or link between its host and the love object. It also attaches its host to the love object, for as long as it remains present in the host.
Hate does exactly the same thing as love, and in the same way. Hate, to the extent of its presence in a host, draws its host to the hate object. It creates a bond or link between its host and the hate object. It also attaches its host to the hate object, for as long as it remains present in the host.
These two spiritual (though not necessarily religious) qualities have much in common. One would repel the host from the object rather than draw him to it if they were opposites. They are not opposites of each other, but are both opposites of another quality. I will look at this quality in the future.
Love and hate, the abstract nouns minus their acts or verb equivalents, are powerful. Medical research proves this in discovering that some persons who harbour much hate consequently develop certain disorders. Researchers also found that persons who harboured thoughts of love realized an improvement in their health.
Love’s opposite, what about motives, acts and outcomes?
Our motives determine our actions and their results. When we act out of love, our motives are always to selflessly serve and help others. When we act out of hate, our motives are to cause others harm.
The motives, and acts and their outcomes, of love and hate are, like love and hate, not opposites. The motives behind our acts of love and hate connect us to the objects of our love and hate. Our acts of love and hate, and their outcomes also link us to the objects of our love and hate.
Finally then, we can say that love and hate are not opposites. We can also say that their motives, acts, and the outcomes of their acts are also not opposites.
by Edward Fagan
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