Breaking Up Is Not Wrongdoing

Breaking Up Is Not Wrong Doing

By Edward Fagan

Breaking up, a few points worth noting

Breaking up in a romantic or marital relationship is often painful for one or both partners. The other partner usually sees himself or herself as suffering wrongdoing by the partner who ended the relationship. Is this, however, really the case?

Does someone deny you a right when they refuse to continue in a personal relationship with you? We commit wrongdoing when we deny someone the exercise of a right in a given situation. Do we deny someone a right when we refuse their offer to start a relationship? No we do not, because such a right does not exist.

We therefore do not grant them a right when we accept their offer to start such a relationship. Then, we also do not grant them a right to continue in such a relationship if started. We thus do not deny them a right when we terminate such a relationship if started.

We have the same moral rights within relationships as we have outside of them. In relationships, however, we grant each other privileges that we do not offer to others. These privileges are ours to give and deny as we choose to do.

When we terminate a relationship we are exercising our right to deny a privilege we granted previously. Our partner might feel bad but we are not denying them the exercise of a right. We thus are not guilty of any wrongdoing toward them.

by Edward Fagan

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Marriage, We Need To Clarify It

Marriage, We Need To Find It Again

An original essay

by Edward Fagan

Marriage ,what an institution

Marriage is a wonderful and very old institution. It is so old that some people have forgotten its origin. Some of us also never even defined it because we always knew what it was. Now, however, a movement is attempting to challenge it and the family.

During the 1980’s a movement started to demand a change to this institution that could have threatened it over time. That movement gained momentum and was about to succeed in its aim by the mid 1990’s. Then, in September of 1996 President Bill Clinton signed the Defence of Marriage Act (DOMA) into law. This bill staved off the attack until 2013 when the U.S. Supreme Court ruled that section 3 of the act was unconstitutional.

Section 3 of the DOMA defines marriage as the union of one man and one woman. It defines “spouse” as a partner in a legally recognized heterosexual marriage.

By ruling this section of the DOMA unconstitutional, the Supreme Court made same sex marital unions legal in the U.S. This ruling set a questionable precedent for marriage elsewhere.

The marital union, by its nature and functioning, is and always will be a heterosexual relationship. It is for heterosexuals only. The family also is a heterosexual only institution. It involves biological reproduction, genetics and blood connections. Its members reproduce themselves perpetually through passing on their genes.

Homosexual and lesbian relationships therefore fail to replicate the family. There is thus no such thing as a homosexual or lesbian marital relationship or family.

by Edward Fagan

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Religion, Opium Of The People?

Religion, at the root

Religion has been with man from our beginning, and seems destined to be with us forever. Who, however, are its creators, and what is its purpose? The God of the Bible made man with a spirit Job 32: 8. This spirit gives us our unique likeness to God Genesis 1: 26.

It also gives us our ability to acquire knowledge and be creative and inventive. We are thus the most creative and inventive of all physical beings. This spirit, however, is not complete. God gave it to us like this for our own good. We must strive to become spiritually complete and fulfilled Matthew 11: 28 John 4: 14.

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Religion, the conclusion

Our spirit needs God to infuse it with his divine spirit and make it whole, perfect Matthew 5: 48. When this happens, we will become divine and eternal members of the god family, sons of God. Christ will be our elder brother Romans 8: 29. This will happen when Christ returns 1 Corinthians 15: 52. He will grant It to those who qualify for it through the grace of God. Those persons who receive it would also have kept the ten commandments 1 Corinthians 6: 9.

God created for us the ideal spiritual life as far back as in the garden of Eden Genesis 3: 3. He created this way of life for us so that we might become one with him for our own good. We rejected his recommended way and its destination, for our own way and its outcome. He still calls us to his way, and to him as its destination. Will we heed his call?

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Jesus, His Death And Resurrection

Missing A Child Who Is Abducted Mysteriously; Jesus, His Death And Resurrection

An original essay

by Edward Fagan

Jesus, the commandments 

Jesus’ death and resurrection had to happen before man could regain access to eternal life. God also wanted man to continue keeping the ten commandments after the occurrence of those two events. Man’s keeping the Ten Commandments continues to be a necessary requirement for him to regain access to eternal life.

This is an awesome divine privilege, and Paul expresses this point clearly in 1 Corinthians 6: 9-10. Please see the following about the importance of keeping the Ten Commandments: Matthew 7:21, 19:17; 1John 2:3-4.

God required man to keep the Ten Commandments before his demise when he did not need a deliverer. He gave man the Ten Commandments in the Garden of Eden when he was sinless. Man fell because he failed at keeping those commandments.

Keeping the commandments helps us to develop Godly character and destroy the old sinful man, John 12:25. The old sinful man must die so that the new man can live in us Matthew 9:17. God’s divine spirit can not join our human spirit if it is corrupt with sin. We need God’s divine spirit to join our human spirit and make us whole, complete, Matthew 5:48; Job 32:8.

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Jesus, grace

Christ’s death frees us from inevitable eternal death, and His resurrection makes our resurrection to eternal life possible. Both events give us a second chance at eternal life, and allow us to benefit from God’s grace toward us. God’s grace does not remove the necessity of our keeping the ten commandments. Grace and the ten commandments are not in conflict with each other.

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Abuse, Women And Self Image

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Abuse, the end must start somewhere 

Abuse against women should never happen; but many abused women think they deserve this treatment and make no effort to escape it. Such women need to change their self view; and start the process of practically untangling themselves from this life of destruction.

Sources that can help abused women improve their self view include the Holy Bible. These women can also use literature from the Living Church of God to help them; and the church also offers counseling to them. With an improved self view they can change their attitude; and they can develop self confidence and walk away from the relationship.

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Love, The Dual Sided Object

Love, The Dual Sided Object

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Love, a quality and a course of action

Love is outgoing care and concern for the other person. It is both an abstract noun, and a verb. We experience the former as an objectively good, joyful inner quality. This quality results in our selfless concrete action that helps and gives to others. This genuine selfless action reveals the quality source from which it comes.

Where the quality is present we will experience it; and we will see this course of action where the quality is present.

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Looking At Love To Understand Its Nature

Looking at love may allow greater understanding of its nature and practice.

This is an original essay written by Edward fagan.

Looking at love in greater detail can help us gain a clearer and better understanding of the importance of love. It can also help us understand the wonderful quality and practice that constitute love.

A clearer understanding of the wonderful quality and practice that make up love can help us in several ways. Such understanding can help us develop love’s quality more completely, and master its practice more perfectly.

We’ll start with the correct, though different, definition of the word love. Love is outgoing care and concern for the next person. It is necessary to know that love exists through action. We give and receive love through the actions we perform toward each other.

The practice of outgoing care and concern for the other person, active practical love is important. This active practical love always indicates the presence in us, of love the inner quality.

Love, the personal quality and practice

In terms of language, love is both a verb and an abstract noun. Both love in action, expressed and practical, and love, the inner quality, are spiritually good. Love, the good spiritual quality, can be a permanent trait of our character during every moment of our existence.

When love, the inner quality, is present in us we practise love, the expressed action toward others. Our outgoing care and concern toward others will aim at helping their person, or their circumstances, or both.

Practised love builds or repairs all types of relationships. Love helps, gives to, cherishes, protects, maintains and preserves the other person and their circumstances.

Love never leads to harm or destruction of the other person. It is therefore impossible for someone to truthfully claim that they killed or harmed someone because they loved them.

We experience the presence of love, the good spiritual quality, when we practise it toward others. We also experience this quality when others practise it toward us.

Our response to our experience of the presence of love as givers or recipients matters.  That response may involve our experiencing a certain emotional state. This may result in the expression of one or another type of emotional behaviour. This happens, for example, in romance and marital situations.

Love’s permanence 

Love is always permanent. Emotional experience and expression do not perform the role of love, they come and go, they are not love.

They are, in a way, similar to sexual foreplay and sexual intercourse. These are not love, but are activities through which a husband and wife can express their love for each other.

There is a course of behaviour that can get in the way and prevent us from practising love. This course of behaviour can be avoided if we uphold certain practices in our daily living.

The practices we can uphold in our daily living to prevent behaviour that obstructs the practice of love include:

Honouring our parents, as well as others in authority over us, and our elderly

Avoiding to commit murder, and avoiding to harm the other person physically or otherwise

Practising faithfulness to the other person with whom we have a romantic or marital relationship

Refusing to steal from the other person

Speaking the truth or remaining silent about the other person, instead of telling lies against him or her

Refusing to covet that which belongs to the other person; refusing to practise envy or jealousy toward him or her.

Love, or outgoing care and concern for the other person, whenever it is practised, always faithfully serves its intended purpose. The practice of love can be the backbone of all human relationships if we would allow this to happen. It can be of great spiritual and other benefit to individuals and groups alike, wherever and whenever it is practised.

Expressing Love And The Ways of Doing So

By Edward Fagan